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Expect The Unexpected Book

Motherhood is not like the movies.

“Expect The Unexpected” is a personal story of the difficulties that can arise and follow from a traumatic birth. It is also a first hand honest account of postnatal depression, difficulty with bonding and loss of identity in the process.

Annie is dedicated to letting other mums know that they are not alone, sharing the problems surrounding bonding and identity, how events can affect it and how difficult or premature births affect both parents. An emotional and empowering account of the problems that can lead to postnatal depression that so many mums experience, with thought-provoking reflections to getting through it from someone who has.

 

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Bizziebaby Gold award Winner 2021 Parental Books & Educational Books Category

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Expect The Unexpected Book Reviews

Product Tested By Sam Davies – Sophie & Jake 7 & 4 Years

Sam Awarded The Expect The Unexpected Book 5/5

I liked that the book had a nice bold title which was easy to read.  The write up on the back was straight to the point and made me want to read more. I liked the simple look of the book.  The title and the footnote on the cover made me want to read more about another mum’s experiences. I really liked that it was another mum’s true account of what they had been through. Things these days seem to be all about the good and the fluffy side to being pregnant and having a baby. This was a real life account of what the other, not so perfect side of pregnancy and birth. It was a real eye opener to what another person has experienced. I myself haven’t experienced anything like the traumas like the lady in the book has.  I have however experiences multiple miscarriages and I have to admit that there were many times that I could relate to what was happening in the book and I did cry a few time while reading. I haven’t experienced post-natal depression myself but it was interesting and very informing to read what another mum had been through and how they dealt with and are still dealing with. I myself was naive when I first fell pregnant as things always seem to be told in a positive light, which of course in understandable, but the reality of pregnancy and birth is completely different. I had my first miscarriage at 12 weeks and I admit, miscarriage hadn’t even crossed my mind as something that could happen to me. Like the lady in the book explains, when you fall pregnant you are already planning your pregnancy and the birth and everything baby when in reality things don’t always go to plan.  My second baby was taken into ICU at just a few hours old and I could relate so well to what they lady was saying in her account of what she went through. No one really talks about what happens when things don’t go to plan. You certainly are told about it throughout your pregnancy care (or at least I wasn’t for any of my 5 pregnancies) complications don’t seem to be talked about.  I don’t mean to scare people but just to make people aware. This book tells all about the other side and how it can make you feel as a mum and as an individual. This book certainly did keep my attention. I haven’t read a book for myself in such a long time and I found that I couldn’t put it down. I wanted to know how everyone was at the end of the book. I felt I could sympathize and empathize with the story. Also, I live near the places in the book too so I really could relate to what was happening. I think this book is well written. It was an honest account of what the lady when through. She was also veery positive about her little girl’s father and also tried to relate to how he must have been feeling too. It was very eye opening and flowed very well through each stage of her journey. It has certainly made me feel that I wish there was more information on miscarriage and it wasn’t such a taboo subject.  Since I experienced my last miscarriage I have joined a Facebook page where people can relate to what you are going through. I just wish there was more information, more support to help with these sorts of things. I appreciate I didn’t go through the traumas like Ann-Marie did but I read her book feeling like I knew her and wanted to help her and I wish I could have read something along the lines of what I was going through.  I do think Ann-Marie’s book is not only an eye opener to the unexpected things that can happen but I found it a comfort that someone had been through so much and dealt with so much was able to share her story to help others see that there is a light at the end of hard times. I really like the honestly i felt throughout the story.  I felt like I knew Ann-Marie and wanted to keep reading to know that she and Rosa were ok at the end. This is definitely good value. It is very informative and something that all parents to be should be pointed int he direction of so highlight that yes, we would all love the perfect pregnancy but sometimes that’s not what we all get. The quality of the book was great. The text was easy to read and relevant areas were highlighted as needed. I would buy this book.  Like I mentioned before, I  think it is interesting and informative to read another mum’s account of pregnancy and child birth. So many of my friends didn’t have the ‘dream’ pregnancy they had hoped for and this book shows that things might not start out as you had hoped, with many ‘bumps’ in the road but things can have a happy ending. I would recommend as it is a very informative and insightful account of a not so straight froward pregnancy and birth. I think people should be aware that not everyone’s story goes as they expect it to. Very informative and relatable without being a hard read. Overall I have enjoyed being given the opportunity to read this book. It is a very honest account of what Ann-Marie went through during her pregnancy, the birth of her daughter, the breakdown of her relationship with Rosa’s dad and Rosa’s continued journey.  It made me want to keep turning the pages to find out what was going to happen.  The book it written in such a way that you can’t help but put yourself in Ann-Marie’s shoes and feel the pain and struggles she went through. I will defiantly be recommending this book to friends and family to help show that as amazing an experience pregnancy and child birth can be, it’s not always like that for everyone.  Everyone has their own experiences and Ann-Marie shares her story so well. Sam Davies – Sophie & Jake 7 & 4 Years

Product Tested By Laura Dolan – Joseph & Christina – 2 Years 6 Months and 12 Weeks

Laura Awarded The Expect The Unexpected Book 5/5

The tag line on the back cover page ‘motherhood is not like the movies’ hooked me in and made me want to get started straight away. The back cover page notes are a good summary of what the book is about. As someone who had just given birth to our second baby, I’m very interested in this subject matter at the moment as stories of birth and mothering are obviously of great interest to me at this point in life. The front cover itself is quite plain and reminds me more of a text book so it’s not amazingly stand out or appealing in terms of design. The front tag line ‘letting go of expectations and embracing what is’ made me want to read to find out what had happened to the author. I think it’s great to hear a real persons account of pregnancy, birth and beyond, especially one that recounts the various things that can go wrong and details what your hospital experience could look like. It’s not something that we can ever fully prepare for, when we decide to have a baby, but hearing someone else explain what happened to them is very useful. I note the quote on the back, from the Chair of the Birth Trauma Association, notes that, by reading this account, healthcare professionals should gain a better understanding of women experiencing similar. I agree that real life accounts, such as this, should be read and reflected upon by those working in hospital especially as the author tries to explain how she felt at the time and then how she feels later on, reflecting back on the experience. I had a very traumatic birth with our first baby and he was in NICU so I related to these elements of the book. This is the first time I’ve read an account like this so it was really interesting to me as I could picture the various scenes she describes. It did help me to understand postnatal depression and how a traumatic experience can impact on different major aspects of life e.g. mental health, relationship with father, career. I think it’s really important that accounts like this are shared so that women who don’t have a straightforward birth can realise they’re not alone and that there is light at the end of the tunnel. It kept my attention and I read it over 2 days, which is quite an achievement considering I’m looking after 2 babies and have a short attention span at the moment! The simple writing style and the way the book is divided into quite short sections made it very readable for someone who is just snatching moments here and there. My partner didn’t read it but I would tell him about parts that stood out as I went along, which would lead to a discussion about our own experience or those of other couples we know of. The writing style is simple and personal. It feels more like you’re reading an online blog than a book and I felt like I whizzed through it as the story captured my attention and made me want to read on. This doesn’t relate to me personally, but I can see how this could facilitate conversations with family or friends if you were struggling to put your own experience or feelings into words. I liked the simple and very readable writing style and the fact that the reader has been so open about both her experiences and how these made her feel. I’d usually expect to pay about £6-8 for a paperback but would happily pay £10 to read about a topic of particular interest so the price seems fair. The cover design isn’t the best but I suppose it’s appropriate for the subject matter. The book itself is nice quality with thick pages and clear print. I would buy this as it’s a good read and would make a good gift for parents, parents to be or midwifery students. I would recommend especially to anyone else who’s experienced a traumatic birth. The writer has a really positive approach and talks about how she recovered from the various upsets, including the relationship breakdown and moving house with a newborn. I think this would help anyone going through similar to know that it’s possible to get through it and flourish. I think it’s very brave of the author to put such a personal account out there and I think it will help a lot of people. I really liked the section that gives further reading on the various topics covered. The writer has really tried to share everything she has learned with others. A very readable book that kept my attention about a very interesting and important topic. I think lots of parents or parents to be will find this useful. I really liked the way the writer tried to reflect on how these experiences impact both mothers and fathers. She has spoken very well about how the different experiences made her feel and I think this could really help others to find the words to express their own feelings about difficult experiences. Laura Dolan – Joseph & Christina – 2 Years 6 Months and 12 Weeks

Product Tested By Cheryl Nagati – Aminah 8 Years

Cheryl Awarded The Expect The Unexpected Book 5/5

First impression of the book was that it seemed interesting, it was written by a mother who had some traumatic experiences and she wanted to share her thoughts and feelings. Some women feel so alone when they have a baby it’s nice to be able to relate to someone else who has been through the same thing. The book was of a nice size making it comfortable to hold and easy to read. I loved the front cover, the hands holding the baby bump with the purple heart in the middle, loved the colours used it appeared clean and crisp. Its sharing a mothers experiences and letting other mums know they’re not alone. When we share what we have been through it helps us to heal inside and accept what has happened and its part of the processing journey. I did relate to some of it and it was really a heartfelt read. I could relate in so many ways and it did make me cry at times as it did take me back to my own experiences of loss and grief i had felt at that time. I have experienced post-natal depression and it’s a very real and hard experience and process to go through. The dark days were so hard i felt literally helpless and even useless. But this wasn’t my fault the health visitor picked up on this quickly. I can see where this book will help so many others to either understand what post-natal depression is about or it will help you to understand you’re not actually alone and there is no shame in seeking for help from a professional. Pregnancy and birth is very real and many woman do get scared especially about having a first baby.  Reading how real it is and how real it can be can help to prepare the understanding of giving birth and can answer many questions women may have about it. I loved it I  couldn’t put it down i actually finished it over 3 nights as i could relate to so many parts in the book. And it was a real tear jerker too !!!  Well written easy to absorb and kept me hooked. It really goes into depth and is raw and emotional. I have given birth 4 times all relatively easy and iv also had three miscarriages. It has helped me to deal with my pain of wondering if i could of done something better. I feel i can i talk about it more easily losing my pregnancies and i feel i could possibly help others too with their grief as its easier to talk about. I really liked the raw passion used to describe what she went through and what she saw. The way it is written is just superb, it’s almost as if the writer is in the same room talking to you.  This is very good value.  You cannot make up something that you have not been through yourself. Reading someone else’s experiences and understanding what they went through is emotional and real. The quality of the book is very good. It’s well written and goes into depth and emption. I would buy this because you could share this book amongst friends and family who have experienced losses in their life. I would recommend because it actually helped me to overcome my anxieties with what i went through in the past knowing I’m not alone and what i experienced can happen to many other women around the world. Brilliant read. Went into depth. Was interesting. I could relate on so many other levels. Nice sized book easy to hold. Great clean crisp front cover. Easy to read. Made me cry but in a good way !!! It was so thorough and in depth. The style of writing was clear and concise, i felt the experiences shared were heart breaking but also so brave of the lady to share them. It really helps you to know you’re not alone when it comes to pregnancy birth and loss. Cheryl Nagati – Aminah 8 Years

 

Overall I have enjoyed being given the opportunity to read this book. It is a very honest account of what Ann-Marie went through during her pregnancy, the birth of her daughter, the breakdown of her relationship with Rosa’s dad and Rosa’s continued journey.  It made me want to keep turning the pages to find out what was going to happen.  The book it written in such a way that you can’t help but put yourself in Ann-Marie’s shoes and feel the pain and struggles she went through. I will defiantly be recommending this book to friends and family to help show that as amazing an experience pregnancy and child birth can be, it’s not always like that for everyone.  Everyone has their own experiences and Ann-Marie shares her story so well.

Awards

Sam Awarded The Expect The Unexpected Book 5/5

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